(But if there is mess, don’t freak! You’re dealing with the bum and we all know what bums do. But if you prefer to put in added steps to ensure no “mess,” you can douche. If you adhere to a fiber-friendly diet and have had a bowel movement 30 to 60 minutes prior to anal play, a gentle wash with antibacterial soap should suffice.
Fruits, veggies, rice, leafy greens and flax seeds will help regulate bowel movements and a spoonful of Metamucil before bed is *chef’s kiss*. Instead, eat right, opting for high-fiber foods. Gays tend to starve themselves silly in anticipation for a hook-up, but it’s completely unnecessary. If sex is planned, you can eat for a cleaner colon a day or two prior. Play believes the best position is the “happy baby” yoga pose, placing a pillow under your hips to angle the pelvis for direct contact. It’s more difficult to stimulate the G-spot through the anus with a penis, though some positions can better your odds. Apply pressure to the vaginal wall closest to the belly button through the anus with a curved toy or finger. If hitting the G-spot is your goal, use the same techniques when accessing vaginally (the “come hither” motion is a fan-favorite).
Good news, vulva-owners: the G-spot (and the elusive A-spot) can be accessed from the anus! In fact, most anal orgasms occur through indirect stimulation of the G-spot via the shared wall between vagina and rectum. To help you relax into the feeling, use plenty of lube, enter slowly, and for those with vulvas, pair anal stimulation with another familiar sensation (i.e. “Blended orgasms from this combo can be extremely delicious,” Kenneth Play (he/him), sex expert and educator, explains. Since those assigned female at birth don’t have prostates, there’s a misconception that anal stimulation is not pleasurable, but there are plenty of other erogenous zones in the area and orgasms from anal sex alone are indeed possible. The prostate has been coined the “P-Spot” and “male G-Spot” because it’s surrounded by nerve-endings that feel oh-so-good when stimulated. Individuals assigned male at birth have prostates, walnut-sized glands located roughly six to eight centimeters inside the rectum toward the belly button. Many gay men belong to this camp, which is why we compare our community to tupperware: the bottoms always outnumber the tops. More often than not, I need prostate stimulation to orgasm from partnered sex.
A Judy who wants nothing but the best for your bum. (Plus, gays are to anal as lesbians are to cunnilingus.) In that spirit, think of me as your gay best friend. While I am indeed a sex nerd -who recently received their certification to teach queer-inclusive sex ed (thank you so much!) -I can say with certainty that my most valuable lessons come from my worst sexual experiences, as they force me to reflect on what went wrong and what could have gone better.Īs someone who has been hospitalized after a particularly gruesome anal encounter, I’ve learned my lesson and now anal sex is a topic where I feel most adept. to offer informed options and solutions to assist others in having the best sex of their lives. To describe yourself as an expert in this industry doesn’t make you some mythical oracle of orgasms, it merely means you’re a sex nerd who’s dedicated your career to study sex, sexuality, anatomy, etc. While I would love the confidence and delusion to describe myself in such a way, the fact of the matter is that sex is too subjective to make such a boastful claim.
People tend to think that because I’m a sex educator and columnist I’m some pro-fucker and know-it-all.